Well. The day came. The day I have dreaded for a VERY long time. Let me explain: My parents are strict Christians and are totally against me having sex before marriage/underage drinking/drinking at all.To my knowledge they did not know I had done all of the above in the past year. On Sunday night my Mum said something along the line of "I don't always think you're telling the truth," I got really annoyed and went to my room. My Mum followed me, sat on my bed, looking totally defeated and like she was about to cry. She said "I know you've had sex with your boyfriend, I knew two after it happened at Christmas. I know you went drinking under age and got paraletic. And you know what hurt the most, that you didn't tell me."My best friend (who I tell everything to) had been telling everything about me to her Mum, who had then gone to my Mum. I feel like my privacy has been invaded. My Mum's been acting okay since Sunday, but my Dad..well...so far he's thrown in conversation "God doesn't want you to have sex yet" "God knows best" "So? Do you think God wants you to do this?" My answer to this was "I'm 18 and no longer have to answer your questions, you aren't responsible for me." If he doesn't let up soon, I will explode.
Second life update: I GOT A JOB!! A company rang me up and asked me to go for an interview the next day, then offered me a job the next day, and I started today! I LOVE it. It's as a FULL TIME sales- assistant . I'm so happy to be out of the house, doing something.
My body seems to have expanded of it's own accord. I have no idea. I've lessened my portions and am eating healthily. But somehow my body is HHUUUGGEEE. I took a pregnancy test just to check and it's all good, going to take another in 3 weeks as well.
Questions:
1. How do you think I should deal with the parental situation?
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Oh, I know that pregnancy scare quite well. No. Fun.
I can't believe your best friend betrayed your trust like that! I'm so sorry! It must be very awkward around your house. How should you deal with it? Hm, I'm not sure. It sounds like the cat is out of the bag and the worst part has passed.
CONGRATULATIONS ON GETTING A JOB! What kind of sales are you doing? I hope you enjoy it.
Wishing you well,
NOS
i think that faith is a journey and not a guilt trip.
it doesnt seem fair that your dad is trying to guilt you into.. doing what i dont know.
but some things that parents do are not going to be fair or fun, so we have to roll with the punches. just be calm and clear with him. tell him that your relationship with God is in your hands. its not up to him to force you back to the "fold". i wouldnt bring up the age thing, whenever i spouted off my age to my parents they were literally like "yea but you still live under MY roof" OK.. point taken.. lol
so be calm.. take it easy.. go to work.. be happy you have a job right now to distract you from the stress :) congrats on that!!!
Allow me to preface this by saying I am an observant, traditionally-minded Catholic. I cover my hair and pray in Latin every Sunday, right?
According to the Bible, God also doesn't want you to eat pork or shellfish. Also, all animals must be slaughtered with their blood drained before they die. How does this relate to the "God doesn't want you to have sex yet" argument? All of these are unreligious notions meant to protect desert peoples from harm. Before germ theory and food sanitation, pork, shellfish, and bloody meat were terrible health hazards. Likewise, 2000-5000 years ago they had no concept of non-abortive birth control, where babies came from was only a vague concept tied to sex, and pregnancy/childbirth was deadly for many woman. Back then "God doesn't want you to have sex yet" was a protective measure. It protected women from dying, and from being pressured into having dangerous sex without the security of a husband who would take care of them if pregnancy injured them.
I believe, that if neither you or your partner are using each other, than why would God have a particular interest in your physical activities?
Much love,
Lola
For Please Don't Eat Me "I think that faith is a journey and not a guilt trip".
That just may be the most beautiful quote i have ever heard. Thank you.
Battle i am so sorry that your friend betrayed you. That is just so awful, beyond words. Stay strong and know you are loved.
Oh, dearest - I am hoping that everything works out well for you.
I would give it time - time has a way of healing most things, although I really do think I am far too young to give out such advice. xxx
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