Last night at church I was chatting to my friend S. She always seems really happy. At our church, in a break a box of chocolates is handed round for free. She passed it straight on without taking one. I asked her why she wasn't having one, and she told me she was on a diet. Well this just put up a red flag in my head. I started questioning her about the 'diet' and she basically confided in me that she's not eating much at the moment because she feels so stressed and feels like she has so little to live for, she doesn't see the point anymore. She spoke exactly like I did this time a few years back, in the midst of depression and bulimia. She talked about how much she loathed herself, and she just hated who she is. I honestly felt like crying. I know that pain so well, and to hear she has been going through it really got to me.
I gave her a hug, told her I know what she's going through, I've been in that pit but I got out of it. I also told her that putting 'the happy face' on won't help. She then said she doesn't feel she deserves to be sad, she feels she SHOULD be happy. I believe this is a big issue for people today, thinking that you SHOULD feel a certain way. Well let me say this: you have a right to feel rubbish, you have a right to feel exactly how you feel. You are allowed to be sad, allowed to be angry, allowed to be content. There is no 'should' when it comes to how you FEEL.
Anyway, back to the main point, what do you think I should say to this girl? Do I need to say anything or is it best just to sit with her and listen?